Acceptance

Desire

If I get all that I desire – what is left to live for?

If I get the thing I desire – I will just desire a new thing.

If I get all that I desire – what is left to live for?

We think that getting the object of our desires is what will make us happy, but we are mistaken.  It is the desire itself that is the stuff of life. 

Imagine if there were nothing else you wanted.  No new tastes, no new experiences, nothing to look forward to.   This is how depression feels.  There is nothing you want – you don’t want to eat, you don’t want sex, you don’t look forward to anything at all.  You have no reason to get out of bed.  No desires. 

Next time you don’t have the thing you want – the relationship, the object, the experience, the achievement know this….

The longing for it is what makes life worth living. 

The Open Soul - Part 8

The quest for meaning casts us out of an open acceptance of reality and into an anxious pursuit that never finds fulfillment.

“From that time on, Jesus began to show his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and undergo great suffering at the hands of the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and on the third day be raised. And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him, saying, “God forbid it, Lord! This must never happen to you.” But he turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; for you are setting your mind not on divine things but on human things.”

Matthew 16:21-23

The modern philosopher Slavoj Zizek echoes Christ’s rebuke of Peter (when Peter rejects the reality that God will die) when he speaks about “the pressure of meaning” as the place “the devil waits upon you.” Like Hessert (see “The Open Soul - Part 7) , he asserts that we should reject the meaning-making narrative.

Christianity is the acceptance of meaninglessness.[1] Both Hessert and Zizek use the holocaust as an example of why we must move away from meaning making. In the holocaust, (as in the crucifixion) God cannot be found through power or meaning, but must be found in their absence.[2] In the face of such great evil, truths are so traumatic, they resist being integrated into the universe of meaning.[3]

It is only the suffering God (Christ crucified) that answers such questions. In Christ crucified, God moves from Objectivity (a transcendent Master who can pull the strings from above and make things as they should be) to Subjectivity (an infinite plurality whose nature cannot be defined)[4]. Zizek cautions us to not try to make meaning of the crucifixion, but to allow it to be what it was – the destruction of God and in this way a revelation of the destruction of ultimate meaning.[5]

Hessert articulates this in this way:

“Christ crucified is the end of the expectation that power will bring life to its fulfillment in the sense of actualizing its present potential. Faith in Christ crucified means giving up the kind of justification of life that realizing one’s potential would offer. There is thus a direct correlation between faith as the surrender of the claim to divine power and “Christ crucified” which is the absence of such divine power.”[6]

 

The Judeo-Christian tradition may have been inviting us to move away from this quest for ultimate meaning from the beginning. The Eden story can be seen as a cautionary tale against the quest for meaning. Eve’s pursuit of knowledge to make meaning worked in the opposite way intended and rather than creating meaning, cast her and Adam out of paradise.

The all too human quest for meaning is the proverbial forbidden fruit, the ultimate idolatry. It casts us out of an open acceptance of the reality that is and into an anxious pursuit that never finds fulfillment.

It is only through absolute emptying of self and trust in grace that the human is freed from the need for meaning-making and is able to live in a space where we are ”not glad because of any special thing or …distressed by anything at all, for all will be well”[7]


[1] Slavoj Zizek. “The Pressure of Meaning” 25:08-25:58  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qVAxuHRKOw

[2] Hessert, 29.

[3] Slavoj Zizek, “Only a Suffering God can Save Us.” Lacan.com, accessed December 14, 2022, https://www.lacan.com/zizshadowplay.html  Section 2 Kierkegaard

[4] Hannah Arendt, The Human Condition. ed. Margaret Canovan (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1998), 10.

[5] Slavoj Zizek, “Only a Suffering God can Save Us.” Lacan.com, accessed December 14, 2022, https://www.lacan.com/zizshadowplay.html  Section 2 Kierkegaard

[6] Paul Hessert. Christ and the End of Meaning: The Theology of Passion. Rockport MA: Element Inc. Out of Print (1993): 31.

[7] Norwich, 153.

The Open Soul - Part 7

Christ Crucified is an invitation into meaninglessness

Can human beings make meaning in the world if they have let go of ideas of good and evil, light and darkness, even God to such a degree?

The apostle Paul spoke of this when he said that Jews were looking for signs and Greeks for wisdom, but he preached only Christ crucified. (1 Corinthians 1:22-25). To Jews, signs were a way of interpreting God’s favor and making meaning through power,[1] and to Greeks knowledge and understanding satisfied the human impulse to make meaning through making sense of things. 

Christ crucified is the breakdown of the use of power to move to a more ideal situation and a breakdown of what makes sense. “It is the absence of divine confirmation of human values.” [2] In this way it not a way to make meaning, but is an invitation into meaninglessness, or as Meister Eckhart might say, into nothingness.


[1] Paul Hessert. Christ and the End of Meaning: The Theology of Passion. (Rockport MA: Element Inc., 1993. Out of Print), 19.

[2] Hessert, 26.

Questioner

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We set aside the compelling desire to be a problem-solver in order to support the other person.

By asking questions we provide another person an opportunity to gain access to their inner wisdom.

We set aside the compelling desire to be a problem-solver in order to support the other person in this counter-cultural way.

An open, honest question is a question with “no answer”: it freely invites any response. In other words, the questioner could not possibly anticipate the answer to it and is not trying to “get at something.”

When is the last time you asked a loved one a question like this:

What surprises you?

What moves or touches you about this?

What inspires you?

What was easy?

What was hard?

Drama

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conflict within ourselves ceases when there is no longer any clash between the demands and expectations

Most people are in love with their particular life drama.

Their story is their identity.

The ego runs their life.

Most people have their whole sense of self invested in the ego.

Even the search for truth, or an answer, a solution, or for healing become part of it.

What the ego fears and resists most is the end of its drama.

When we live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in our lives.

Ego is the unobserved mind that runs your life when you are not present to this moment.  When you are not present as the witnessing consciousness, the watcher.

Whenever we are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, we are creating drama. Drama around fear of the future, which hasn’t happened yet. Drama around regret and shame over the past.

When we live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in our lives.

The ego perceives itself as a separate fragment in a hostile universe, with no real inner connection to any other being,

Whenever two or more egos come together, drama of one kind or another ensues.

But when you are conscious, nobody can even have an argument with you, no matter how hard he or she tries. You cannot have an argument with a fully conscious person.

An argument implies identification with your mind and a mental position, as well as resistance and reaction to the other person’s position. The result is that the polar opposites become mutually energized. These are the mechanics of unconsciousness.

You can still make your point clearly and firmly, but there will be no reactive force behind it, no defense or attack. So it won’t turn into drama. When you are fully conscious, you cease to be in conflict.

 A course in miracles tells us that “No one who is at one with himself can even conceive of conflict,”

This refers not only to conflict with other people but more fundamentally to conflict within ourselves, which ceases when there is no longer any clash between the demands and expectations of our minds and what is.

When we live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in our lives.

(Material adapted from “The Power of Now” Eckhart Tolle

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