Let's be honest - we hate Grace.  We like to control things.  We like predictability, security and knowledge of what the future holds -- at least to some degree.  

But Grace is in its very essence unpredictable and infinite. 

We don't want to give others Grace. 
It's scary.  

They might do something we don't like.

We don't want the people we love to change too much, we don't want our bodies or our health to change too much, we want secure jobs, secure homes, secure incomes, secure economies, secure stock markets, secure political systems.  

We objectify people in an effort to create an illusion that the person we are interacting with is a secure and stable entity that we can understand. 

It's way too scary to try to love something that we don't understand, something we cannot control, something that is always shifting and changing and evolving.  So we objectify in order to love. 

We set our specifications

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